Divorce

Saturday February 19th, Matthew 5: Divorce: 31 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. I hate the fact that I am divorced. I hate the fact even more that I am divorced twice. Death of a spouse is much easier to deal with, there is a finality to it. Divorce is ongoing pain. I get along well with my first wife. We just had a party together to celebrate the baptism of my grandson, which I was able to perform. My current wife was there, in the home of my first wife, celebrating the joy. I too was celebrating the joy, and yet there was a cutting edge, and pain, that gnawed at me. My second wife is still angry, although she has long sense ceased taking me to court for revenge. Instead she has ingested the revenge and let it eat away at her insides. That too pains me though I had little to do with the choice. So it goes. Divorce is hell!!!!, let me say it again, Divorce is hell!!!!!!. The pain stops not at one generation, or even two. It goes on and on and on until someone has the balls to stop the pain and break the cycle. I would like to claim that I was the victim, and perhaps I could justify saying so, but it matters little, if at all, to the real victims, the children. Knowing that I would still recommend divorce in some cases. Cases where the pain of staying together is greater than the pain of separating, but take no doubt, it is pain, and it is real, and it is damaging. Jesus was giving rights to the victims of divorce, the women. Rights not being the same as the lack of pain. The next time someone catches your eye, it may spark a bit of life, and that is OK… to act on it brings death to everyone involved.